Anja my friend

DEAR ANJA
The scary black car came closer, slowly creeping up the street like a monster. It stopped in front of the house, where we just said goodbye to our dear young friend (45 years only), who 10 years after a long battle against cancer, had left us. Standing next to our car, we looked at this big nasty black car, why black, so penetrating, so gloomy, she had to leave her wonderful husband and son of 15 years.
All very understandable to the mind, but your heart said otherwise and it was with pain we had to see that, that black monster would take her away forever. This sweet creature, Anja came into our lives quite unexpectedly. We were the only witnesses to their marriage. They were both modern, young, true individualists, a nice modern different pair, both could have been our kids. We were deeply moved by this very special gesture, weddings of my own children we had missed or were painful, this gave us a wonderful feeling.
In the amazing old city hall of Brouwershaven, we were both there as the only witnesses of this commitment. Who would ever have guessed that that black monster, would separate them for good. A happy sunny day we spent with them, lunch in Veere, dining in Zierikzee, great weather, beautiful images. In the background the lake of Veere, it was a very happy day. They then already lived in an old farm in our village. Ruud, my husband’s ex-son in law with Anja. Ruud, playing in a heavy metal band, crazy about boats, a great sailor with the same hobbies as Willem, guitars and boats.
About 6 years later they bought an authentic old freighter, 26 meters long, which had to be totally restored, but they went to live in it anyway with their new-born son, Joeri. Those were years of hard toil and spending much money, but the result was more than worth it, it became a beautiful sailing sailfreighter.
Then suddenly Anja felt the first lump, everything was completely removed even the lymph nodes. Five fearful but peaceful years followed, sailing, enjoying, sailing in France and loving to live on the freighter in the water. Joeri liked life on the big boat, swimming, fishing and many friends in the harbor, a good life and both parents enjoyed their special kid.
There was a large drumkit in the boat, because Joeri is also filled with music and now plays as 15 year old in a band.
Suddenly, being on holiday, after 5 years a small lump on the other side. Then the deadly road began, without any mercy, in the most severe form of suffering, which lasted 5 years, a merciless struggle for all three which ended with the terrible black monster at the door. The farewell of their beloved wife and mother. We also witnessed all this senseless suffering and sadness, powerless, helpless.
We had to say goodbye to this lovely creature, Anja, who was only given such a short time with us. Dinkie